Finding a partner who truly aligns with our core values is becoming increasingly challenging in today’s world. This article explores the various options available and examines whether a more traditional and private approach, such as using a professional matchmaking company, might be the ideal solution. But first, let’s take a look at how the process of finding a partner has evolved over time.
If we look back through time before the emergence of online dating, the way in which we used to meet people was far more organic—either at work, an evening out, a walk in the park, or through friends of friends. This natural approach to finding a partner was done without thinking, it was something we presumed would happen, and often this was the case. When meeting somebody this way, we ‘see them’ for who they are; we don’t look at a checklist to see it they fit every aspect of our life and wants. For example, if we were speaking with someone whom we were getting on really well with and felt a strong connection with, we wouldn’t get that list out to check through it, we would be totally engaged and be having a great evening. I guess in the main, this is what online dating has replaced and, to a degree, tarnished. Let’s take a look at what online dating offers us and then see how a matchmaking service differs.
What Does Online Dating Offer, and What Are the Risks?
When online dating first took the dating industry by storm, the general consensus was that we were suddenly in complete control of who we would meet along with there being countless opportunities for people to explore. They felt safe—at the end of the day, everyone was doing it, so how dangerous could it be? Soon it became an irritation for a few, and over time, for most, as slowly the cracks started to show, as it was discovered the core things that most hold dear to them were not being protected, such as confidentiality and privacy. Once people’s details were uploaded, they handed complete control of this sensitive information to whichever site they visited, with any member having direct access to their profile and all information that we have added. It’s funny—generally people surround themselves with a few core people that they trust with their most personal information, along with their hopes, dreams, and aspirations, but within this online environment people seem to become blind to the risks and dangers.
In recent times, these problems have received far more coverage from the national press, along with advice from the City of London Police, which published an article on 17/06/2024, outlining the dangers of romance fraud. In the past year alone, we have seen an increase of 8.4%, with more than £94.7 million lost to online dating fraud. Detective Superintendent Oliver Little, from the City of London Police, said: “Romance fraud continues to be one of the most common types of fraud that is reported, and it is shocking to see an increase of nearly 10 per cent in the number of reports made in the last year. Despite this increase, we know romance fraud is a heavily underreported crime, so it is likely to be significantly more widespread. We encourage everyone to come forward if they think they could be a victim.”
He continues: “There is no shame in telling your story, as it is through this sharing of intelligence that can really help us learn about the tactics used and, ultimately, catch those responsible. Your report may be the final piece in the puzzle, as often these callous criminals will target more than one person.” The report also goes on to say 2 out of every 5 people met were actually fake profiles This fact alone is incredibly worrying given the number of profiles these corporate dating sites have.
So, as we can see, these incidents are no longer isolated but are growing daily. Given the fact that only a small percentage report these incidents, I can only imagine the full extent of this type of fraud and the devastation these attacks leave their victims with, not only from a financial standpoint, but also the psychological effect it leaves in its wake.
How Does Matchmaking Differ, and What Are the Benefits?
If we look at the process of a professional matchmaking company, it becomes clear why people are now reverting back to this traditional approach; but what does that entail? Now I’m not saying that this approach is completely risk-free—matchmaking’s rise in popularity has given way to many new companies who are now seeing its potential. Unfortunately, trends often attract a surge of imitators seeking quick profits, meaning it’s essential to thoroughly research each company. Questions are vital, and any personal matchmaking company will be more than happy to address these. Asking about their success is a great place to start. These may include: What is the split between men and women? Do they provide any sort of security checks on their members? Do they interview their members? And are they following GDPR guidelines to make sure they are keeping your data safe? These are really important questions as it will help you determine whether they are indeed a reputable company.
So, with that said, how does using an elite matchmaking service differ from online sites or dating apps? The way in which a paid professional matchmaking service works is completely different; no algorithms are used or clever tech to find like minded people—it is all carried out by your matchmaker. In the first instance, it’s important they ask about what led you to the point of inquiry—everyone has a different reason, so finding out is important as it helps to paint a picture to determine if this will be the right approach for you. They will discuss what type of person you are looking for, as well as your interests and relationship goals. At this point, it’s important that you ask any questions you might have, as embarking on this journey can seem quite daunting, so the more you ask, the more confident you will be in investing in a service of this kind.
We’ve highlighted some key benefits that we believe give personal matchmaking a distinct advantage over online dating:
A Safer and More Secure Form of Dating
We all work hard to keep our data as safe as we can to protect ourselves from the risks that modern day society has, which range from identity theft to card cloning, so don’t be afraid to ask what sets them apart. Ask directly what security measures they take and who provides it, as making sure your data is safe and that your details won’t be shared is vital. At the end of the day, if you are paying for a service, you want to see and feel the difference that the service provides. All matches provided should be discreet and will never be found on a public website.
Unparalleled Dating Support and Guidance
Having an executive matchmaker to guide and help you through the process can be invaluable to some people. The thought of meeting new people can and should be an exciting time, but fear can sometimes cloud our vision, so having someone alongside to support and guide you is often really important in finding the partner you are looking for.
Higher Quality Dating Matches
When joining a paid dating service, every member has the same intent: to meet someone who is generally looking to meet their person. It removes anybody looking for casual relationships. All members are vetted so you know they are genuine and authentic. This in turn means every profile you receive is from someone who has truly invested in finding love.
Increased Dating Success Rates
Professional matchmaking companies often have a far superior success rate than online dating due to the commitment of purchasing a membership, along with having your own personal matchmaker guiding the way. Every member has invested in the process of meeting someone to share their life with. This in turn avoids time wasters and often leads to long-term relationships that do stand the test of time.
Less Self-Invested Time Into Dating
Having the time to invest in looking for a new partner can also be daunting, and we can easily find ourselves getting lost in an avalanche of profiles with online dating. Matchmaking is completely different, as your matchmaker does all the hard work behind the scenes, looking for a profile that aligns with your core values. This removes any stress and allows you to enjoy your day while knowing you are moving ever closer to finding that special person to share all that life has to offer.
Overall, using a matchmaking service can significantly enhance the quality, efficiency and enjoyment of the dating process. Most of all, it’s safer: it protects you from what has become the fastest-growing form of fraud, safeguards your data, saves time that can be spent on the things you love, and, most importantly, helps you find that special person you’re looking for.
If you’d like to find out more about how personal matchmaking can work for you, then look no further than The County Register. We offer elite, professional matchmaking services that are tailored to your specific needs. We have superb success rates when it comes to matching like-minded, professional singles. Let us be part of your journey today—call or now or fill out our easy contact form. We look forward to hearing from you!
