In a world where the landscape of finding your soulmate has shifted significantly, it has become increasingly difficult to find an authentic connection with someone that most importantly of all has genuine intentions. Over the past 10 years, we have seen the decline in the frantic world of online dating due to people discovering the perils that lurk on those sites. This, in turn, has seen people start to look for a more traditional approach to finding a long-term relationship. TV companies have also seen the benefits of utilising a traditional matchmaking service, which has seen numerous programmes broadcasted across the UK daily. Why? Because they know it works. One that spiked my interest was ‘Love is Blind’, where people get to go on blind dates, but the difference is they don’t get to see each other.
This concept really got me thinking, as it flips how we would normally find love on its head, and the more I thought about it, the more I could see the benefits. In the days before the internet and smartphones, aside from talking, letters were our main form of communication. There was nothing better than hearing the clink of your letterbox and the excitement of opening a letter from a loved one. I always remember looking through the love letters from my grandparents to each other and seeing their love develop over time. It felt so intimate and personal, where physical attraction played no part — they were happy together for 58 years.
How Important Are Shared Values for Nurturing True Love?
So, the question is, can true love develop from just focusing firstly, on shared morals, core values, and an outlook on life that truly aligns, as opposed to focusing on physical attraction? I believe it can, and does, and here is the reasoning behind that. While physical attraction is incredibly important in a relationship, over time we all change, and the love that we develop is based on core values. This is why I like the concept of falling in love with the person and all they represent first. A good analogy for this is when we eat. It’s often said we eat with our eyes first, and if we don’t like what we see, we never even try it. If we were put in the same situation with a blindfold on, our smell and taste takes over, and more often than not we find ourselves enjoying it. So, I guess at times, our eyes can restrict the possibilities that could await us in all aspects of our life.
While ‘Love is Blind’ is not something for everyone, it does highlight the need to be open, to look beneath the surface, and into the heart and soul of somebody. These inner qualities are the foundations of every successful relationship, and certainly was the reason my grandparents found the deep, everlasting connection they did. I often hear when people talk about the past, that couples just got through their marriage because that is what you did back then. I am not convinced this is the case — my thoughts are that those relationships weren't built on physical attraction, but more on core values which I believe leads to a deeper love that stands the test of time.
If I could leave you with one piece of advice as you look to find that special person to enhance your life: be open and truly see the person, because this is where I am confident love can be found.
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